Last week, I went to Liquid Church for the first time to try something a little new. I was instantly impressed by the modern approach to church and it felt good being there, listening to the sermon. So, this week, I went back.
Today, the Pastor and author of the book called "You Married The Wrong Person" spoke. The title was engaging, to say the least. Being an unmarried person, I can only imagine the reaction some married people could have had from this.
A few of the takeaways I learned today:
- NO one is flawless. The person you are dating or married to has flaws. They might be messy or have anxiety problems or be clumsy or whatever. Regardless, they are not perfect. They cannot spend every waking moment making YOUR life perfect because, eventually, they will have moments of weakness. It's important to not have a "me" centered marriage or relationship because you're focusing on achieving the unattainable.
- A successful marriage means being selfless. Maybe a couple has similar interests when they are young and getting married. But, they won't always have endless weekend hours devoted to biking through the woods or taking classes together. Eventually, life gets in the way and it's important for one another to be supportive of the other, and to be selfless.
- Prince Charming vs. the Victoria's Secret Model. The new general stereotype of marriage is that women want to marry Prince Charming (because that's what they deserve, right?) and men want to be with a woman who will please him at all hours of the day (because that's what he deserves, right?) Wrong. Neither exist. The recent trend of marriage is that the expectations of one's partner has skyrocketed to unrealistic heights. While, at the same time, the concept of marriage has plummeted and divorce is more common now than ever. How can expectations for a partner be so high when the value of marriage is lowering? Accept the person you are with for who they are.
Overall, it gave me a refreshing new idea for how to view marriage. I've been lucky to have grown up seeing my parents, still very much in love. I can only hope that one day I can share the same love for my husband!
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If you'd like to join me next time at Liquid, let me know!! :)
Happy Sunday, Everyone! Thanks for stopping by.